I knew she was lying but left her room without making a big deal out of it. I needed to contemplate her lying to watch a children’s show. Part of me wanted to lecture her, however a wiser part knew to look at mirroring first.
Thomas and I use mirroring as one of our main parenting tools. What is mirroring you wonder? If you see it you be it, in a nut shell. Or, the person in front of me is mirroring back (showing me) something I’m either thinking or doing. Basically, they are showing me myself.
Yuck. Sometimes I really hate mirroring! I didn’t like what I was seeing in Mecca and certainly didn’t want to look at that part of me. I like to think of myself as powerful, honest and certain. Well, Mecca’s energy was timid, weird and secretive.
I set the intention for clarity and guidance before going to bed. This morning during meditation things became crystal clear.
A few hours prior to the incident with Mecca, I had offered to give a close friend a promotion code to a website I’m involved in that would give her a free month of membership. As soon as I made the offer, I questioned my integrity. As far as I knew, the promotion code was to be used only during our soft launch which was a month ago, not a couple of days before our hard launch. To justify my actions, I made excuses in my mind for giving her the code. Bottom line, I felt weird and secretive, the exact same things I was seeing in Mecca.
To remedy the situation, I asked if it was okay to give out the code. I received a big yes! Now I didn’t have to hide out or make excuses. Time to talk to Mecca.
Our conversation was pretty brief and went something like this: “Mecca, I want you to be powerful in your life. I feel like you were being really weird and weak when I asked you about The Suite Life of Zack and Cody. Is there any reason why you shouldn’t watch that show?” I asked. “I don’t know,” was her first response. After a little more prodding, she finally admitted she wasn’t sure about watching the show because I wasn’t familiar with it. We talked about mirroring and Universal Law and me feeling out of integrity and weird about offering my friend the free promotion code. (Side note, Mecca said yeah, I was wondering about that. She had questioned it as well. Parents--our children are watching us!)
To conclude, we decided if we aren’t sure about something, to just ask! It’s better to get clarity than hide out feeling we have done something someone won’t like. In my commitment to be clear and powerful in my life, sometimes what shows up are the areas where I’m being the opposite. Thanks to Mecca and mirroring I had an opportunity to be different in this situation.
Parents, what are you seeing in your household that you don’t like? The more we can clean up our own stuff, the more peaceful our children will be! How can I rationally lecture Mecca when I’m doing the same thing?